Why You Should Stop Caring What Others Think About You
We waste a surprising amount of time worrying about what other people think of us. Inspired by Seneca and Stoic philosophy, this article explores what we can control—and why our own response matters more than other people's opinions.
Do you also think about what others are thinking of you? Or what others have said for you?
If you do, you're not much different from me.
I also had spend my time and energy thinking about what others have been thinking of me?
I eventually realized something uncomfortable: most of the people I was worrying about probably weren't thinking about me at all. And this wasn't a new realization. Seneca wrote about the same problem centuries ago.
This is one of core thought of letter what Seneca wrote to his friend.
Where he explored one of the Stoicsm's central question that, what should we consider truly important in life?
He said, We often waste our time worrying about things we cannot control - what others peoples think, what they do, or how events turn out.
Seneca's message was simple: we cannot control everything that happens around us, but we can control how to respond.
Instead trying to change others opinions, why not to change yourself.
Think about the last time you argued with a friend over something that ultimately didn't matter. What were you actually trying to accomplish? Change their opinion? Prove that you were right?
Either way, you may have spent an hour trying to control something that was never yours to control.
Core message behind this is brutally simple, we cannot control everything that happens around us, but we can control how to respond.